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A child funeral is an opportunity for family and friends to come together, celebrate a life and share photos and memories. It can be held in a church, mosque or other place of worship or at a community venue or at home. It can be led by a funeral director, a minister or rabbi, an independent celebrant or by the parents themselves. Often children are welcomed at funeral services, and many families find that including children can be a healing and uplifting experience. However, some children may feel uncomfortable and do not want to attend the service. This is normal and understandable. Involving children in a funeral can help them process their grief and connect with the deceased. If a child does not wish to attend a funeral, it is important that the parents respect their wishes. Children do not have to grieve in the same way as adults and they may need a break from the service. Involving children in a ceremony can also give them a sense of ownership and responsibility for the event. Educate the children before the funeral and prepare them for what they will experience. Whether or not the body will be present, talk to them about what a casket looks like and answer any questions they might have. If you decide to use a closed casket, describe how their sibling will be laying inside the casket, fully dressed, with their arms folded and their eyes closed. If you decide to have a open casket, explain the same things but if they are older, you could invite them to come and look in the casket themselves, if they are comfortable doing so. It is also possible to have a graveside memorial service for a baby or child, rather than a funeral service at the funeral home. This can be very comforting for young children and allows them to visit the cemetery in a familiar environment. Involve them in the service by allowing them to write messages on message boards or matted picture frames, have people throw flower petals on their head or bury them at the graveside, ask them to sing or play music on an instrument they know and encourage children to light candles or place flowers. Consider a thematic color for the service, such as your baby’s favorite color or the colors of their team or a character they love. It can instantly transform the ceremony into something that feels more personal and unique to them. If you are concerned about the cost of a funeral or burial for your baby, there is financial assistance available to help you. The Tears Foundation offers support for funeral homes and burial plots directly and the Funeral Fund for England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland can pay towards funeral costs for children up to the age of 18. If your child was stillborn or born after 24 weeks gestation, contact your local bereavement specialist for further information about this.

Newborns are fussy, so it’s a good idea to have plenty of easy-to-wash baby clothes on hand. It’s also a good idea to register for clothes in newborn sizes because babies grow quickly. However, figuring out how many clothes to buy and what kind of clothing is best can be confusing for first-time parents. The main types of baby clothing include onesies, jumpsuits and gowns. Onesies are usually t-shirts or bodysuits that cover only the top half of the torso and are typically used for sleepwear, but they can be worn under other clothes for cooler weather or more formal occasions. Some brands of onesies have snaps while others have zippers, which makes dressing the baby more convenient. Jumpsuits are similar to onesies but have legs and can be easily pulled up and down over the baby’s head. Some have hoods, which make them warm and comfortable to wear in cold weather. Some are reversible and can be worn either way for extra versatility. Gowns are often made from flannel or cotton jersey and are like PJs, but they can be dressed up and have a hood for warmth. It’s important to have a few sets of matching or neutral baby clothes. These outfits can be used for photos and other special occasions, such as visiting family and friends. Having some of these special occasion outfits on hand will help reduce the amount of laundry you do in the beginning. Some new parents find that they like to keep their newborns in PJs all day, so you may want to consider getting some of these as well. When choosing baby clothes, it’s a good idea to purchase some organic garments. Organic fabrics are made without pesticides and other chemicals, which is better for your baby’s sensitive skin. According to the National Eczema Association, babies’ skin is 30% thinner than adults’ skin, so they are more likely to absorb chemicals from their clothes. Another thing to think about when buying baby clothes is the fabric’s durability and stain resistance. Babies get very grubby, what with milk spills, dribbles and nappy leaks, so it’s important that the baby clothing you buy can stand up to repeated washing. In terms of sizing, it’s worth noting that different brands of clothing have a tendency to run small, large or long. It’s a good idea to check each brand’s sizing chart to see how their clothes fit, and then do some trial and error to figure out what size works best for your baby. You’ll also want to stock up on some basic laundry supplies, such as fragrance-free detergent and fabric softeners, and a large trash bag for the diaper bin. Most importantly, remember that infants have sensitive skin and should only be washed in a gentle, non-irritating detergent. Laundry detergents that contain perfumes and harsh dyes can irritate your baby’s skin, so it’s best to avoid them. Using an organic detergent that’s free of chemical additives can help keep your baby’s delicate skin happy and healthy.

When a loved one passes away, you may need to make arrangements for their funeral or memorial service. This is an important and sensitive time, and it can be helpful to select clothes that reflect your loved one’s style and personality. Burial gowns are an option that allows you to do this in a comfortable and beautiful way. The choice of attire for a loved one’s casket or burial plot can also be a beautiful final act of love and respect. Choosing outfits that speak to their hobbies, interests and lifestyle can help those who attend the service come to understand more about the person they are honoring. If your loved one was a dedicated baker, for example, you might dress them in their favorite apron. If they were an avid fisherman, a pair of fishing pants and hat adorned with their favorite lures might be just right. Many people choose to dress the deceased in their own clothing for a burial or memorial service. This is often a tradition in many cultures, and it can provide a comforting sense of familiarity for family members and friends. However, in some situations, a person’s own clothing isn’t suitable for burial because of a change in body weight or the stiffness caused by rigor mortis. In these cases, a funeral home or other burial facility will typically provide an appropriate garment to dress the person in for the service. A burial gown is a garment that covers the head and shoulders of a dead person. It has an opening in the back that allows a mortician or funeral director to easily place it over the body and slip the sleeves over the arms. These garments are made in a variety of fabrics and colors that coordinate with various types of casket interiors. While most burial gowns are designed for adults, a few companies specialize in crafting tiny, burial-ready garments for infants who are stillborn or died before they were fully developed. Sewing artist Beverly Duckett, for example, makes and donates custom angel gowns to hospitals and other organizations around the world. Duckett says that for many parents, the loss of a baby is especially painful because they aren’t able to bring their newborn home. Having a custom-made angel gown to bury their child in provides them with some measure of closure. Depending on your loved one’s wishes, you can include other items to go with the burial clothes. This might include a necklace, a bracelet, a book or other personal items. However, it’s worth checking with your chosen funeral home or burial site about their policies on such items before you purchase them. Creating burial gowns isn’t an easy task, but it is a labor of love that can be very meaningful for the families that use them. If you’d like to get involved, there are several organizations that accept donations of fabric and sewing machines. You can find a list of organizations that are looking for volunteers by visiting the Sew & Tell blog.

When you no longer have a place in your closet for your wedding dress, you can donate it to a worthy cause. From a bride looking to replace her lost gown in the wake of tragedy, to a young girl who dreams of her big day but can’t afford her dream dress, there are many charities and thrift shops that accept worn bridal wear. Some require the dresses to be professionally cleaned and boxed before they will take them. Most of these organizations have websites that walk you through their vetting procedures and donation guidelines. While you may not be able to reclaim the cost of your dress if you donate it, your donation is still tax deductible. If you’re donating to a local charity, you can also claim it on your taxes. Some of these charities are national, and others focus on specific causes. For example, Brides Across America sources gowns for military members and first responders, while Becoming a Cupcake helps Ugandan women who have survived sex trafficking and forced marriages. Other organizations focus on cancer awareness and early detection. If you are a breast cancer survivor, you can donate your dress to the Pink Ribbon Warehouse. There are other ways to repurpose your old wedding dress if you don’t want to send it to a charity. You can give it to your daughter or granddaughter for their wedding, or repurpose the fabric into home decor and other cherished keepsakes. It’s possible to turn your wedding dress into a baby shower or baptism gown, or you can use the beads, buttons, and lace as embellishment for other projects. Aside from being a great way to help others, donating your wedding dress to a worthy cause can also free up space in your closet and allow you to declutter. If you’re donating your dress to a nonprofit, make sure you keep any documents or correspondence for your records. If you can’t find a place to donate your wedding dress, you can always store it. Just be careful with how you pack it, because wedding dresses are delicate and can be easily ruined. It’s a good idea to put your dress in a garment bag, or even better, use the box it came in for storage. If you’re interested in donating your dress, the websites of most organizations will have a brief form for you to fill out or a contact number you can call. Some will even have tips on packing your gown for safe shipping. They also recommend having it dry cleaned before donating it. It will make the dress easier for staff to work with, and it’s a good idea during the pandemic, as COVID-19 can live on certain fabrics for days. If you can’t afford to have your dress dry cleaned, you can buy an inexpensive garment bag online and store it in a suitcase until you are ready to donate it. Just be sure to properly wrap the dress and use acid-free boxes for both storage and shipping.

One of the hardest things a parent can go through is the loss of their infant child. The grief is devastating, and it can last a lifetime. But there are some who, in the midst of this tragedy, find comfort in receiving something beautiful and meaningful to help them heal and carry their child’s memory with them. An angel gown, or bereavement gown, is a special garment made from a wedding dress that is lovingly transformed into a piece of art to provide families with a beautiful memory to hold on to in the years to come. These special dresses are handmade by seamstresses all over the country, and they’re used to honor babies who do not get to go home from the hospital after birth. There are an estimated 626,000 stillbirths and miscarriages in the United States each year, so these gowns are desperately needed by families who need them. Judi Grubbs, the president of NICU Helping Hands, is on a mission to help as many families as she can. She’s been able to make that happen through the support of her community. After a Facebook post, she received about 40 wedding dresses that her group of volunteer seamstresses turned into angel gowns for babies who never leave the hospital. The organization is now offering their gowns to hospitals around the country, and they’re in high demand. To ensure that every family receives their special gown, the group has begun asking for help with shipping costs. “If we have any shipping delays, a family could miss having that gown,” Grubbs says. “That’s just something we want to avoid.” Grubbs and her team don’t need wedding dresses at this time, but they do need people to donate money for the cost of shipping. She hopes that more people will see the needs of their community and offer to help, whether they can sew or not. If you want to make a donation to help the angel gown program, please visit their website. You can also share this article on social media to help spread the word about this amazing organization. About the Author: Lisa Haugen works in the nonprofit sector as a management consultant and holds an MPA from BYU’s Marriott School of Business. She has lived in Bolivia as a missionary and moved to Utah after completing her education. She loves to surround herself with people who are serving and making a difference in their communities. Dignity Health – St. Mary’s Medical Center Long Beach is proud to partner with NICU Helping Hands to deliver precious Angel Gowns to families of newborns who do not survive their stay in the NICU. They are featured this month as our Hospital of the Month. UCLA Mattel Children’s Hospital offers a full range of world-class care to children of all ages and needs. Its unwavering commitment to families includes specialized emotional support and language services for non-English speaking parents, innovative therapies, and cutting-edge treatments.

A child funeral is an opportunity for a family to say their last farewells in the presence of loved ones who share the same grief as they do. Many parents find that this is a very comforting way to say goodbye to their baby or child, especially when they are not sure they are ready for a full funeral service. A child funeral can also be a chance for children to say goodbye to their sibling who has died, whether they are still living or have passed away. This is a very difficult thing for some children to understand and can cause anxiety. The best approach is to break down what will happen at the service so your child can decide if it is something they want to be part of or not. It is important to give a child the option of attending or not, but to also help them understand what will happen at the funeral and what it might look like. Some children can be scared by what they might see when they are buried, so it is a good idea to offer them a choice of what they would prefer to be buried in. This could be a Moses basket, bassinet, doll bed, or perhaps a wagon padded with blankets for an older child. It is also helpful to offer a clear and honest explanation of what they will be seeing, encourage questions, and repeatedly reassure them that their sibling cannot feel cold or pain or fear and that their sibling can still be a part of the family. Most families choose to have a short ceremony in their home, at the funeral home or other place of worship before the burial. During the service, there might be music geared toward children or a story about your child that is shared by friends and family members. You can also request that a member of the clergy or other person who knows your child be present to help reassure and talk with them throughout the service. When it is time to go to the graveside, it might be helpful for a friend or family member who knows your child to be their “funeral buddy” during this part of the ceremony. They can play with your child during this time and help them through the different rituals. After the graveside service, your child may want to scatter flower petals or sprinkle glitter over their grave. You can ask the funeral home or other people to be first and provide a container for these items for your child. Other children might write a message to their sibling and have it placed in (or on) the casket or urn, or write a letter or poem and have it read on their behalf. Having a balloon release, lighting unity candles or using luminaries can also be very meaningful to children. Many families will also keep a small urn at their home to hold some of the cremains of their child, or even their favorite teddy.

Baby clothes can get really grubby very quickly what with dribbles, milk spills and nappy leaks, so they need to be washable and sturdy. It’s worth investing in some organic cotton pieces that will keep their shape and not deform or discolour after repeated washing. Cotton also wicks moisture away from baby’s skin, which will help to keep them dry and avoid chafing. Babies can go through quite a lot of clothes — especially if they’re having a growth spurt — so it’s best to buy in bulk where possible and be sure to choose durable, well-made clothing that can be worn and washed over again without showing any signs of wear. If you’re worried about the environmental impact of your purchases, look for a sustainable brand that uses organic cotton grown using methods that won’t damage or disrupt the ecosystem. One of the most popular brands of sustainable baby clothing is Primary. They make onesie, t-shirts and bodysuits in bold colours and simple designs that are both cute and functional. They’re great for newborns as they have a long, envelope neck that allows you to put a shirt on over the top and a double zipper for easy changing. They also have newborn cuffs and feeties so you don’t have to worry about nappy leaks. The best part of this clothing is that it’s affordable — you can pick up a pack of three onesies for just $15. They’re also made from the highest quality materials, and are suitable for sensitive baby skin. This means they’re hypoallergenic and have a very low rate of allergic reactions. They’re a great choice for babies with eczema or other skin conditions, as their natural fibres won’t irritate the skin and they’re gentle on the environment too. Another good option for sustainable baby clothing is Pangaia, which makes organically-grown cotton onesie, t-shirt and bodysuit sets in a variety of styles. They’re soft and breathable, and you can choose from a range of colours to suit any taste. Pangaia’s clothes are also hypoallergenic, and their high-quality fabrics are also incredibly durable. Their organic cotton is harvested from a family-run farm in the Philippines and they use minimal processing to ensure their products are environmentally friendly. You can often find great deals on sustainable baby clothing at places like Janie and Jack, which has a huge selection of outfits that are both cute for photos and designed to stand up to the usual amount of dribble, poo and wee babies will spill on them. It’s also worth checking out your local charity shops and garage sales if you want to save money while supporting a small business at the same time. Monica+Andy is a GOTS-certified brand that specialises in fun prints and personalized clothing. They’re great for Disney fans and you’ll find plenty of PJs, kimonos and one-pieces decorated with princesses and Mickey Mouse. They also have a few gender-neutral options, but the majority of their clothing is fully licensed.

The passing of a loved one is an emotionally traumatic time for many families. However, some people are able to find comfort and peace in honoring their loved ones in the details of their funeral services. This includes choosing the clothing that they will be buried in or cremated in. It’s also a special way to pay tribute to the deceased’s personality and final wishes. For women, a simple black dress is a popular choice for burial outfits. The color symbolizes purity and peace, a sentiment that is echoed in the burial process. Choose a knee-length or midi dress with modest neckline and sleeves for an elegant look. Complete the outfit with closed-toe shoes and minimal jewelry. Most funeral directors provide bereaved families with a selection of burial gowns for their loved ones to choose from in a variety of natural fibers. Alternatively, it’s acceptable to wear any clothing that you feel best represents your loved one, as long as it fits properly and is appropriate for the type of funeral service. While it’s common for family members to dress their loved ones in the clothes that they wore throughout their life, you can also bring personal items with you to the funeral home that can be placed inside or on top of the casket. This is a great opportunity to honor your loved one’s passions and interests, from their favorite sports team to their beloved motorcycle. It’s important to consider the tone and sentimentality of the burial outfit that you choose for your loved one, but don’t be afraid to ask for input from other members of the family. They may have valuable insights on what attire your loved one would want to be buried in, and they will likely offer support and sympathy throughout the decision-making process. For men, a suit is a classic option for a formal burial outfit. Choose a well-fitted suit in a neutral or subdued shade, and pair it with a formal dress shirt and polished dress shoes. You can also opt for a traditional cultural garment like a kimono, kilt, or kurta to honor the individual’s heritage and identity. If your loved one was a naturalist, you might choose an earth-toned shroud made from ecologically produced linen. It’s a lightweight fabric that’s comfortable and breathable, and it’s also biodegradable. Alternatively, you can choose an all-white ensemble to convey serenity and peace. Then, finish the outfit with a conservative tie and closed-toe shoes. You can also choose to go for a formal shirt and trousers ensemble for a more casual look.

If your wedding gown is a size too big or you simply don’t wear it anymore, there are plenty of places to donate it. Many bridal shops and charities accept preowned dresses to help brides who can’t afford to buy their dream dress or raise money for other important causes, such as breast cancer research. Some of these organizations resell the dresses, while others turn them into christening gowns, cocktail dresses or accessories like purses or shawls. You can also give your old dress new life by repurposing it as a quilt or a decorative wall hanging. It’s best to check the guidelines of your chosen charity before you start cleaning or packing your gown. Some have specific rules about how old your dress can be, for instance. For example, a charity that resells used wedding dresses may only accept gowns that are no more than five years old. This is to ensure the dress has not been worn out or damaged, which can damage the fabric and leave behind stains. Similarly, some charities only take lace dresses and not chiffon or polyester ones. The charity will likely wash the gown before they resell it or pass it to someone else. If the dress is clean and dry, the process will be much easier for the charity volunteers. In addition, it’s a good idea to label the box of your dress before you send it off, as this can save valuable time for the charity volunteers. The label should include helpful information such as the dress’s size, the name of the brand or designer, the year you bought it and its original price. A wedding dress that is stored for too long can become a haven for rats and insects. It can also develop mold if it is exposed to moisture. If your gown has been in storage for a while, it’s best to wash or dry clean it before donating it. The dress should also be inspected for any signs of stains or rips that need to be cleaned. You should also ask about the organization’s COVID-19 policies before you drop off your dress. Some charities have been updating their guidelines during the pandemic. This may affect how they accept and store the dresses, as well as how they distribute them. Some of the resale charities have a singular focus, such as Brides for a Cause, which collects gowns to sell and then donates the proceeds to dozens of women-focused charities. This charity also accepts bridal accessories and tiaras. There is also NICU Helping Hands, an organization that turns donated wedding dresses into angel gowns for infants who die in the womb or shortly after birth. These babies often spend a lot of time in the hospital, and their parents are overwhelmed with grief. The gowns can give their baby a beautiful funeral and send them off on their next journey in style.

After her daughter died in the NICU, Kathleen Hulet’s heart ached for families who would not get to bring their babies home. Then she remembered an article she’d seen about a seamstress who transforms wedding dresses into infant burial gowns, known as angel gowns. These beautiful little dresses are offered to hospitals, birthing centers and funeral homes — as well as directly to grieving parents – free of charge. Those little gowns are changing lives, and they’re being used to help families remember their tiny baby in a meaningful way. Across the country and around the world, many families struggle to find clothes to dress their baby for their final photos and for internment. So the gowns created by volunteers like Kathleen are a gift that helps ease some of that stress, a way for families to hold on to their baby for a little longer. One such family is at UCLA Mattel Children’s Hospital, in the NICU and PICU. Earlier this month, the hospital received its first package of precious angel gowns from volunteer seamstresses. These beautiful, custom-made gowns, along with matching blankets and bonnets, will be given to families when a child is born stillborn or dies during or shortly after birth. At no cost to the parents, Sunshine State Angel Gowns uses exquisite wedding gowns donated by caring people across the nation to make small, delicate burial gowns for infants who die before, during or immediately after their birth. These glorious gowns, called angel gowns, are then delivered to hospitals, hospitals’ neonatal intensive care units (NICUs) and funeral homes – and to families who have lost their child – all over the country and in four countries worldwide. This is not an exhaustive list, but it shows that the need for these gowns is truly global. And it’s an incredible testament to the compassion and dedication of volunteers like Kathleen and the rest who make it possible. ANALANE POWELL: The first time I met Kathleen, she told me her story. Her daughter was born at 24 weeks and weighed just 1 pound. She lived only four days and died from a rare lung disease. Her mother was unable to find clothing small enough for her, and that’s when she decided to become a seamstress to make angel gowns for other grieving families. Since that article was published in May 2018, Kathleen has sewed thousands of angel gowns, and she’s not alone. Volunteers from all over the country — and in four other countries — have joined her cause. The gowns are made from a variety of fabrics, including bridal gowns and formal dresses. Each one is washed, cut and sewed by hand, and some are machine-stitched. They’re offered to families all over the United States and in many other parts of the world, as well as at hospitals in the Spokane and Coeur d’Alene areas. They’re also being sent to hospitals in Oregon, Texas and several other states.