The death of a child is a heartbreaking tragedy that affects all members of the family. It’s important that parents and other caregivers understand what a child funeral is, how it differs from an adult funeral, and the many things that can be done to make it as smooth and healing an experience as possible for everyone involved.
A child funeral can take place in a church, chapel, or at home and can be as simple or as elaborate as the family wishes. Typically, a funeral service for a child is a private affair, with only close family and friends in attendance.
Some families choose to have a public memorial service for their child and invite friends and family to come and celebrate the life of their son or daughter. This can be a very emotional event, but it is also a great way to honor the deceased and to share memories of them.
If you decide to have a memorial service, it may be helpful to have an older relative or friend act as “funeral buddy.” This person can play with the children during the services and help them stay engaged. They can also keep an eye on them and help them if they start to show signs of distress or discomfort.
It is important that you explain to the children what will happen at the funeral in an age-appropriate manner. It’s best to give them as much information as they can handle at one time, but don’t be afraid to go over topics again later if they need it. Children will need to process grief in different ways and each will react differently at the funeral. Some children will cry and others may not shed any tears, while some may be angry or withdrawn. It is important to remember that these reactions are normal and that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Some parents choose to have their child’s casket or urn displayed at the funeral, which can be a comforting and familiar sight for the family. If you do choose to have your child’s body displayed, be sure to talk with the funeral directors about what options are available for the day of the funeral.
You can also decorate the funeral venue with items that were special to your child. From flowers to teddy bears, it’s important that you choose decor that reflects their personality and life.
If you have any concerns about the cost of a funeral for your child, it is worth talking to your funeral director as they can provide advice and may be able to offer financial support. If you need further assistance, the Money Advice Service has more information on help paying for funeral costs.